Dating a Wall — Nothing Gets Through

Avoidant undersells this band. Emotional talk barely exists and gets deflected when raised. When you cry they get awkward and leave. No apology comes, and raising hurt returns the word sensitive. They see no need to tell anyone about you, and asking for help gets handle it yourself. Feel close and distance follows immediately. At this point it reads less like a relationship than like a state you're maintaining by yourself. If the longest task in your day is interpreting them alone, that's your answer. Relationships aren't supposed to be this hard. The point isn't to brand them a bad person. People carry different tolerances for closeness and this one's is extremely wide. What's worth calculating is how much you're getting out of continuing to fit yourself into that distance.