What this test measures
People search for secure boyfriend and avoidant partner far more than they search for their own attachment style. What they actually want to know is about the other person: why this one feels easy, or why something keeps catching. So this test looks outward. You answer from the observer's seat.
Secure and avoidant isn't a good-person, bad-person split. It's a difference in what the body does when someone gets close. A secure partner comes back to the conversation after a fight and doesn't treat your bad week as a burden. An avoidant partner creates distance at the exact moment things turn intimate — disappears mid-conflict, covers emotional talk with a joke. Not out of malice. It's the move they know.
Every question is built from observable behaviour. Nothing asks you to guess at their inner life. Does the first message come from them the morning after a fight. Where were they when you fell apart. What does their face do when you bring up next winter. Six tiers. Land near the top and don't let that person go. Land near the bottom and the point isn't to condemn them — it's to see where you're the one being worn down. Reference only, not a diagnosis. When you get your result, send it over and make them take the self version.